Knowing where one thing ends and another begins allows us to make wise choices.  These choices are what keep us safe.  Knowing where the solid ground ends and the water begins, allows us to make the choice to stand or walk on the ground, or to dive and swim, or drown in the water.  Knowing how to operate in the water and how to operate on the ground is vital to our safety.

Like the old saying goes, “Fences make good neighbors.”  Playpens kept us safe when we were babies, but did we ever move out of the containment of the playpen of limits that were set for us?  Did we ever learn how to make healthy choices and create healthy boundaries after we outgrew the playpen?  Or are we still dragging along that playpen of other people’s limitations with us, expecting others to keep us safe?

There is a current saying that is repeated often, “outside of the box.”  What box is it referring to?  Is it the box of 20^th century beliefs and ideologies that we are dragging along with us into the 21^st century?  Is it the box of previous generation’s issues that we carry with us as our responsibilities and duties?  Is it the box of religious dogma?  Can we operate outside of the box without establishing boundaries that are appropriate to our current time and space of the 21^st century?  Knowing where a boundary is, allows us to honor and respect the boundary or to disregard it and violate the space that the boundary encloses.

We are in a constant pull of expanding and contracting energy.  Fear contracts our energy field.  Love and Compassion expands our energy field.  The energy of the 21^st century is pulling us to be more loving and compassionate to all of humanity and connected to the whole.  Expand your energy and be empowered.  On the other side of the coin, the evening news is continually proclaiming terror.  Fear! Fear for your life.  Fight for your survival.  Contract your energy and diminish your power.

Did you even notice that when two people from different ethnic backgrounds meet each other in an equally mutual place as peers and interact on an individual basis, things go along smoothly in an equally respectful manner?  Things appear to work fine.  But when the government leaders, religious leaders or organizational leaders that control large groups of people get involved then one group is pitted against the other in a competitive reach for power and control.  If there is no power and control at stake then there is no prejudice or warring factors involved.  That is why I think that we can only change things on a personal one-on-one relationship.  The old outworn energy, of one group that controls and has power overall, is struggling to stay alive.  

There are boundary issues galore on the evening news.  Our own government invades and violates the boundaries of other countries and now our own personal information boundaries.  Our country’s boundaries were violated when the terrorist attack of 9-11-2001 occurred.  Our personal identities are being violated with scams.  It is all around us the more we expand our communication abilities the more vulnerable we are to personal space invasions. 

My theory is that as we have learned to expand our communication and our energy on many different levels, but we have not learned to adjust our boundaries to compensate for the changes.  So why would you be able to expand your communication lines, from mail delivery once a day to a container outside of your home [which has a locked door as a boundary]; to a mail delivery system that delivers mail 2 to 3 times a minute 24/7 to a container inside your home [which bypasses the locked door as a boundary].  The mail delivery system changed: the boundary did not.

The communication system is just one of many visible things around us that show how a lack of adjusting boundaries according to the rate of your expansion leaves you vulnerable to invasion.  This vulnerability has you instinctively protecting yourselves by cocooning, withdrawing, and contracting your energy out of fear.   This is a normal survival instinct.

Learning how to adjust, expand and filter according to our newly expanded energy empowers us to be fully who we are with our expanded awareness and consciousness operating at its maximum ability.  As the veil thins and you continue to expand, you need a conscious plan for restructuring your boundaries according to your ever expanding awareness.  Physical boundaries and filters do not differ from energy boundaries and filters.  The locked door, a design from the 17^th or 18^th century, is not enough for the technological communications of the 21^st century.   The locked door that we have depended on for so long, no longer keeps out unwanted communications.  Be it emails, TV news and commercials, faxes or cable adult porn.  We are being bombarded with unwanted and unsolicited communication that slips right by the locked door of our home.

How long will it be before the Cable Company has total access to a two-way picture to observe what you are doing in your own private establishment with the locked door, when you have your television or computer on?  With wireless technology being developed at the rate of speed it is now, maybe the television and computer boxes wouldn’t even need to be turned on.

Is this a visual of what our inner communication system or energy system is capable of?

Are these material manifestations of our own expanded two-way energy connections [psychic or telepathic communications] that are becoming more open to us in our current evolution?   This becomes even stronger as we realize that we are all connected on a much deeper level then we have ever realized in the past.

How can you use conscious intent to bring your boundaries up to the 21^st century standards required for healthy relationships?  Once you have established your Healthy Boundaries on all levels then you can enjoy Healthy relationships on all levels.

We’ve looked at what is going on around us in the bigger picture.  Now let’s turn on the zoom lens and analyze what is happening in your personal circle of existence. Have you expanded your conscious awareness in the last year to ten years or maybe even 20 years?

Ask yourself these questions; jotting down the mental answer that you hear.  Then go to your heart charka, ask the same questions and feel the answer, jotting it down.  Now compare the two.  Do this with all of the personal relationships in your life. 

Are your boundaries healthy?

Have your relationships with those around you expanded to keep up with your personal transition? 

Are you empowering each other, as you grow and expand together in wonder and joy?

Or are you draining each other and depleting each others energy reserves trying to maintain a relationship that has served its purpose, in the past, but no longer continues to do so?

Is it time to dissolve the commitment and move on to new experiences?

Does it feel like you have to drag this relationship along with you like the playpen from the past? 

You see playpen translates to limitation. 

Do any of your current relationships translate to limitation?

May I point out, that “bound” is the root word of boundary.

Are boundary issues a factor and more obvious to you now in your relationship then when you first began this relationship? 

Or are the boundaries completely dissolved?

Sometimes you become so merged in a relationship that you can no longer decipher, where your energy ends and the other person’s begins.  Remember that knowing where one thing ends and another begins is necessary for your safety, like the previous example with the land and the water.  You need to know what form of operation is necessary for safe travel when you cross the line.  But if you are so merged that you can not tell where the line is, then how can you know how to operate in that place.  When this happens you may continually ask yourself, “Why doesn’t anything that I do, work to correct this situation that I am in?”

Does it feel like there are people that you relate to in daily life that are an energy drain on you?

Do you feel better in this relationship now, then when you first entered into it?

Are you trying to fix or heal the other person?

Are you waiting for the other person to change or catch-up, in order for you to move on? 

This would mean that you are standing there stagnantly waiting for the other person to move or do what you want them to do, while you hold yourself [your flow of energy] back. 

How strong is the dam that you have erected to hold yourself back? 

Is this powerfully strong dam creating something just as rigid in your physical body, while you are waiting for the other person to catch up? 

Are you so merged with the other person that you have lost your true identity [your true Self]? 

In the 1990s we were numerologically saddled with a double dose of #9 energy, which is about unsettled identity.  We are just emerging out of that ten year cycle of self-doubt, still unsure if it is safe to be totally empowered, even though we have been working through all the self-help books since the 1980s to find our own power.    

You cannot help anyone by taking on their path for them.  If you are on their path and not your path; you are on the path of self-destruction, be it disease or other means of wanting out of this live.  If you don’t like your life right now, first look at your relationship to yourself and then look at your relationship to others. 

Are you taking on the other persons work to do, in order for them to expand their awareness?

That is not Love.  That is not Compassion. 

We now need to look at the difference between sympathy and empathy.

Please don’t confuse sympathy or empathy for others with Love and Compassion for others.  Pay close attention to how you use your energy. 

Are you using it positively or negatively in relation to others? 

Are you getting drawn into the other person’s problem by joining them down in their deep hole? 

Or are you throwing the other person a ladder to climb up and out of the hole themselves? 

You have “sympathy” for the other person if you get down in the hole with them. 

You have “empathy” for the other person if you give them the means to get out of their hole by themselves.

As you expand your energy awareness, it is important to have a handle on the difference between these terms.  You are here in this particular time in history to find your own power and to stand strong in your identity.  To do this you have to find your center, or point of origin.  Then find your balance point in relation to others. 

You may be asking yourself, “How do I do all this?”

I have found those answers in working with the science of numbers in Numerology.  By working with the particular time that you came into this existence, your date of birth, I can take you back to your original point of origin.  This point of origin is before limitations and outer influences of relationships that became a factor in your life. 

As I identify and share with you the energy vibrations you originally came into this life with, it gives you a chance to reconnect with that original spirit that empowered you to come to this life with all your glory and ambitions to change the world.  As you grew and developed thru many stages, you were given boundaries to keep you safe because you were a small, delicate and sensitive human being.  You did not want the boundaries, you wanted to be a free spirit and do what you came here to do.  But society was not ready for your form of free spirited ideas so you needed to contain them with a second layer of skin.

There were probably many times along the growth path that you thought it was safe to allow that original spark to shine and radiate in its full brightness.  And many times it was limited and contained under another layer of skin to keep it safe because it did not conform to the system and the standards that were in place at the time. Each and every one of those layers of skin was a boundary.  And then there were some of you who never formed a second, third, or fourth layer of skin as a boundary for safety sake.  You are the ones who are considered the “highly sensitive” ones.  You are the type who merge rather with others for safety, rather than contain and separate that spark.    When you merge with others then they think that that spark of yours is the same as their original spark, there is no differentiation between yours and their.  Therefore, there is a loss of identity for both parties.  This is the case when there is no second skin, boundary or definition of individual space.

This is where a personal Native Path numerology reading helps to define and distinguish who you are as an individual, whether you need to excavate through the layers or need to define and separate two enmeshed individuals.  Numerology is about relationships and harmony.  The first step is having the reading about the origin of you, i.e. a Native Path Reading.  The second step is a follow-up phone consultation to help you apply the original information to your everyday life and current relationships.  The third step is to have a Native Path Compatibility Reading regarding you in relationship to the other person (or persons).

After you have accomplished these things then you can serve others while also taking care of your own needs.  In this way, you will be able to regenerate your own energy even more effectively while you are of service to others.  When this happens, you are able to feel good about yourself emotionally so you can release and enjoy your creative energy to its fullest potential, allowing you to bring the passion and beauty of your creative energy into the world.  This is the point at which you will feel the ecstasy of your own creative efforts because you are working for a higher cause, in cooperation with others and the world at large.

Many clients recognize that they have been in a time capsule of protection keeping them safe until this moment in time.  This moment in time is about opening your own time capsule and being that original, glorious and powerful person that is here to change the world by using Healthy Boundaries to Create Healthy and thriving Relationships.